很多曾经徘徊在生死边缘的人在死而复生之后做的第一件事就是改变以往的生活方式。他们常常会感慨，度过一个让人悔恨的人生实在太不值得了。那么让濒临死亡的人最后悔的事情是什么呢？
What can people at the end of life teach us about how to live? Bonnie Ware has taken care of people in the last stages of life for many years. She often asked them during their last weeks and days about their biggest regrets. If they could do things again, what would they change? Here is what they said:
1. “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”
我希望当初我有勇气过自己想过的生活，而不是按照别人的期望生活。
This was the number one regret that Bonnie heard. When the end is near people often remember all the dreams that they didn’t follow.
2. “I wish I didn’t work so hard.”
我希望我工作时不要如此拼命。
Many people told Bonnie that they became so focused on making money that they didn’t spend enough time with their partners and children. When they were on their deathbed, they realized that time with their family was more important than having more money.
3. “I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.”
我希望我有勇气表达自己真实的感受。
A lot of people said that they would have been happier if they had been more honest about their feelings. These people had pushed their true feeling down and worried too much about what other people thought.
4. “I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.”
我希望能与朋友多多联系。
In their last days of life, many people thought back to all the wonderful friendships they had had and felt bad that they had lost contact with them.
5. “I wish that I had let myself be happier.”
我希望我能让自己更快乐。
Many dying people also told Bonnie that they wish they had been more open to change. Happiness is a choice. Over the years they had followed the same patterns and closed the door on new choices that could have made them happier.